Your relationship isn’t over.
Let’s talk about rebuilding trust and intimacy to strengthen your bond.
It’s time to stop getting your relationship advice from Buzzfeed. If you want real strategies that actually work for restoring trust, deepening intimacy, and building confidence with your partner, you might be ready for couples therapy. This type of therapy can be helpful for all types of relationship situations, including but not limited to heterosexual relationships, LGBTQIA+ relationships, marriages, non-monogamous / open relationships, polyamorous relationships, and more. Further, River Oaks Psychology is committed to honoring the diversity of all people in relationships, holding space for the experiences of people who have partners of a different race, ethnicity, gender, ability, religion, or other difference.
Exploring the complex dynamics of your relationship in a non-judgmental space can be transformative for people because it often reveals inner truths, emotional needs, and the reasons why you feel stuck. You might be part of a long-term marriage or maybe you are dating and thinking about living together. You may be considering separation or trying to rebuild trust and heal from an act of unfaithfulness. You might be struggling with infertility or may be overwhelmed by parenting disagreements. There are endless possibilities for what you and your partner might be experiencing but the bottom line is that no relationship is perfect and sometimes professional support from an unbiased therapist is needed to strengthen your connection to each other.
Together, you and your therapist will discover what works well in the relationship, what’s not working, and how to develop solutions for even the most stressful life problems. We understand that life is not always easy and circumstances like job changes, loss, illness, addiction, finances, pregnancy, parenting, affairs, sexual concerns, trauma, and countless other stressors can diminish the “spark” that initially created attraction. We’re here to help you fall in love all over again.
Therapy can help couples by:
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How do we know if we need couples therapy?
For most people, the decision to begin couples therapy derives from the unhappiness of one or both partners. Yet, many people in couples therapy report that their unhappiness began several months – or years – before they actually reached out to us for an appointment. This leads us to wonder, why wait? We want all couples to know that you don’t have to wait until you hit “rock bottom” before beginning couples therapy. In fact, many couples view therapy as a preventive health measure to deepen their intimacy or to guard against stress from upcoming life changes.
We want you to remember that therapy is controlled by you – it is your time, your space, your session, and your opportunity to use the support from your therapist in whatever way feels most helpful. Sometimes there is no identified “problem,” in which case couples therapy can be a space for learning more about each other, better understanding each other’s needs, discussing sensitive topics in a safe place, or learning new skills to enhancing empathy and compassion toward one another.
Therefore, if you are debating whether or not therapy is necessary, remember there is no need to reach a certain unhappiness threshold in order for therapy to be helpful.
Some signs that may indicate a need for counseling include:
Couples and Telehealth
We love telehealth and list many benefits on our page, Why Online Therapy.
But there is another advantage of telehealth specifically for couples: you and your partner do not need to be in the same location to both participate in video sessions with your therapist. Our secure video therapy platform allows multiple people to access the video sessions from separate digital devices. Therefore, it’s not necessary for you and your partner to be sitting on the same couch sharing one digital-screen together. This is perfect for couples who are taking a break from living together, couples with opposite work schedules, or couples who simply prefer to sit alone during sessions.
How does Informed Consent work for couples?
For couples therapy, both partners will need to electronically sign our Informed Consent document. However, to comply with clinical record protocols, we can only list one partner as “the patient” in our documentation. If using insurance, the partner serving as the patient will provide their individual insurance plan information. We are unable to split treatment costs between multiple people or multiple insurance plans.
Please note that it’s common for therapists to hold a “no secrets” policy between two partners in couples therapy. This means that one partner in the relationship cannot reveal information privately to the therapist and ask for that information to be hidden from the other partner. Most therapists feel this undermines the process and does not lead to effective outcomes.
In addition, neither couples therapy or family therapy is appropriate when there are problems interfering with the process, such as intentional hostility or abuse, untreated addictions, or other concerns directly interfering with therapy. While arguments or intense emotions are allowable and may occur in couples therapy, both partners should be interested in treatment and demonstrate a willingness to cooperate together.
Most importantly, your therapist can talk to you more specifically about their therapeutic style and what will work best for you and your partner.